Raluca Florescu

The Wheel of Procrastination

Procrastination doesn’t come from laziness, it comes from something much deeper: fear.

Fear is the strongest engine, the one that keeps a person from acting, especially someone raised within limits imposed since childhood.

People aren’t taught to act.
They’re taught to fear, to stay silent, to endure, with a fragile illusion, “maybe things will get better”, but with no foundation of safety.
The lack of safety is the root of the fearful person, the one prone to postponing.

People delay out of fear, out of the absence of a clear vision that shows them solutions exist. And fearful people are the most likely to face more problems:

• they delay going to the doctor

• they delay paying their bills

• they delay talking about what hurts

Until small problems become inevitable or even irreparable.
The stress of procrastination, also known as anxiety, is nothing more than the effect of a fearful mindset. It’s not a lack of vision, but a lack of safety.

In many cases, a lack of emotional safety during childhood leaves deep marks that may later evolve into anxiety, fear, or difficulties in adapting as an adult.
These patterns don’t appear out of nowhere, they often grow in environments where communication is tense or inconsistent, where love feels conditional, or where silence replaces understanding.
It isn’t about blaming families, but about recognizing how emotional instability in early life can quietly shape the way a person learns to feel safe in the world.

The Direction of Safety

Vulnerability often manifests through inaction and inaction turns small problems into big ones, sometimes too big to handle.

But how can a person suddenly find the courage to face their procrastination?
Only through acceptance and a genuine desire for change. Even if it hurts, even if it’s hard, even if the fear is overwhelming. The only way is to face the consequences directly, but this time, with a new mindset:

“I resolve it because I want to feel better.”

Solutions always exist, yet sometimes we bury them under fear and discouragement.

A vulnerable person is one who lacks safety, and the path to regaining that safety isn’t easy.

It’s the work of the self.

Slow work, but possible, because the mind can be trained, step by step, to redirect itself toward action instead of procrastination.

Translated and assisted with ChatGPT.